A person’s success in his work, social and emotional life is his responsibility in the first place before it is the responsibility of the surrounding circumstances or people.a person goes through many and varied experiences, some succeed and others fail, and sometimes he blames others. when he loses a friend, he believes that he is right at the beginning, or when he separates from his emotional partner, and then later thinks and asks himself if he is the reason for his friend’s distance from him, and whether his way of dealing with the partner is correct or not.
The same applies to working life, although the path to success is bumpy at many times, but difficulties are not an excuse for failure, and having academic degrees is not the only guarantee of human success; because success depends primarily on good human self-management, using time optimally, and organizing his personal and work life in the best way, and below we will show you the art of self-management so that you can improve your situation in various fields.
First: the art of self-management
It is the ability of a person to manage his thoughts, emotions and feelings, and then the ability to control behavior in a conscious, rational and productive way that leads him to excellence, success and also excel in personal or professional life; as a result of the ability to direct skills and talents to the right path, and the ability to self-control in negative situations, and then deal with everyone smoothly, equanimity and wisdom that enables him to achieve all practical goals, and also helps him maintain friendship, family relations and his emotional relationship as well.
Second: the art of self-management and how to control time and personal organization
Given the importance of self-management and the organization of time in our lives to become more efficient in all that we do, we must follow the following:
1. Time control and regulation:
The organization of time helps a person to reach his goals and achieve his desired in the required form, and nowadays the importance of guidance to organize time is increasing, because we suffer from many pressures, and there are several things capable of stealing our time and wasting it, and to organize and control time, the following can be followed:
Focus well on what you are doing: focusing on work helps to get it done in the best way and with the least time, do not occupy your mind with home, for example, or with your partner during work time, and stay away from all distractions such as a mobile phone, or keep it silent; because the arrival of a message from a friend will keep you busy for at least 10 minutes.
Organize your tasks: you can prepare lists of tasks from the beginning of the week; you specify in the list the work that you have to accomplish in various aspects of your life, and set a specific date for each of them, in order of priority, and it is better to group similar tasks together so that you do not have to think about them more than once.
Daily planning: you can sit down half an hour before bedtime to plan the next day, so that you determine the work that you will do in each hour; this is because setting time limits for each task helps not to waste time, and in case there are difficult tasks, you can start them first so as not to occupy your mind while completing the rest of the tasks.
Make Organization a habit: if you fail to apply the scheme you drew at the beginning of the week or the day before, do not hold back until you get used to completing tasks at the planned time; this is because constant practice makes work easier, and there is no harm in entrusting some tasks to others who can help you get used to completing the task on time.
2. Getting rid of stress:
The difficulty of life in various fields makes a person in a constant state of stress that causes the loss of his talents and abilities, and hinders his development and excellence, so stress cannot be accompanied; rather, it must be eliminated by committing to sleep for at least 7 hours a day, in addition to following a varied healthy diet, and exercising daily.
If you don’t have time to go to the gym, for example, you can just walk half an hour a day in the fresh air to restore positive energy that helps to overcome various difficulties, and try to find something that helps you relax during the day, such as listening to your favorite music, all of the above makes you more alert.
3. Setting goals in life:
Organizing time determines the time for you to complete each task, but the great importance lies in the process of determining the goals and tasks that you must accomplish in your life in general.you can set a plan for your goals, determine the path that leads you to it, and start working with looking at the plan permanently and not forgetting it to make sure that you are on the right track, but always remember that you have to set logical goals in life so as not to become pessimistic when failing to achieve one of the goals.
It is not possible to succeed in any work or relationship if there is no self-motivation, and of course, a person is the best one who can motivate himself by repeating phrases like: “I am able to succeed, and this task is easy, I have overcome the most difficult ones before,” a productive person is a person who has a positive outlook on life and work.
For the sake of self-motivation, you can reward yourself after each work you do the way you want, like someone puts a piece of chocolate inside his book after each lesson, after completing the lesson, he can eat a piece of chocolate, and so is life, for example, you can go on a two-day trip with someone you love or with family after completing an important project in your work so that you always remember that success.
5. Bring out the best you have:
Everything you do is worth working hard and getting tired for, as is the case with relationships, don’t let your failure in an emotional relationship, for example, prevent you from working hard for the success of an existing emotional relationship, as well as work, don’t stop developing yourself in your field, there are no limits to science, so try by various means to develop your skills and bring out all your talents to be distinguished in every work you do, and always think about your strengths, understanding what your strengths are gives you self-confidence and a sense of comfort pushes you to accomplish various tasks that you have to accomplish.
To find out all your strengths, you can ask for assessments from coworkers, friends or family, and you should also reflect on yourself well and remember what experiences you had during your studies or work.
6. Be patient:
The difficulties of life are many and the upcoming events cannot be foreseen, and self-management becomes easier by having patience and conviction of the fact that a person cannot control all situations, and life cannot go as he wishes; rather, he has to adapt to life and its changes, and he has to be calm and calm when obstacles appear and patience to deal with any change or obstacle optimally, which always makes things in his favor.
7. Always monitor yourself:
The presence of a manager at work or someone who monitors actions and behavior sometimes makes a person commit to his work and stay away from negligence or waste of time, but a successful person does not need someone to monitor him, he is responsible for himself, monitors his actions, holds himself primarily responsible for success, adheres to his plans, adheres to the promises he made to himself, does not give excuses and arguments, or blames those around him for failure; rather, he admits the mistake he makes, apologizes when offending someone in a moment of anger, tries not to repeat the mistake, and he also does his best to make up for the mistake and be a source of trust for family, friends, co-workers and emotional partner, so everyone finds support for him when He needs them.
8. Learn decision-making skills:
An accomplished and effective person in life can make the optimal decision in every situation in which he solves various problems, and this is done by learning decision-making skills, such as the ability to analyze all basic and non-basic information when exposed to a problem, and based on real data and actions, and not on guessing and imagining, which we cannot be sure of the extent of his correctness.
Therefore, do not limit your view, look at each issue from all sides, listen to different points of view while not adopting any of them; rather, it is better to form a special point of view on each issue or problem to make the best decision.
Human self-management is necessary to be able to succeed in various aspects of his life, and to be able to achieve professional and personal goals, and the art of self-management enables a person to face various life problems, and motivates him to bring out his best, and this is done by organizing and managing time in the first instance by moving away from distractions during work, focusing on the task being worked on, and setting lists that determine the necessary length of time for each work, in addition to trying to get rid of stress and stress by following a healthy diet, exercise, relaxation and good sleep.
Do not forget before seeking success to set logical goals that can be succeeded, and be patient in the course of your quest; because a person can not control his life as he would like, but he can do his best and bring out the best that he has, strengthen his strengths and motivate himself constantly, and he does not need a censor; but he can be the censor on himself, and he can make the best decisions after listening to others, always looking for facts, and looking at every matter from different sides.